Each and every single of us has got the drama and the bad past that keeps us feeling guilty for the mistakes or bad things that happened. Once it happened, it is there. We can not change it, but the thing is our feeling is still attached to that bad time, and it perhaps affects our present and future time a lot if we could not let go of it. We all know that we live with the past, and it is not easy to forget those things away. However, with these few tips, it will help you a lot to do so.
1. Forgive but Not Forget
If somebody has done some terrible things on you that make you feel so bad about it, you could give yourself sometime to feel bad and calm down and learn to forgive. Actually, you are forgiving someone else to forgive yourself. If you could stop being angry or hating someone so bad, you will feel better too. But, be careful not to forget that. It is a lesson. If you forget, the same bad mistake might reoccur.
2. A Strong Determination
Some time, you are unhappy with your past because you could achieve or do things that you love or highly expect to get. That does not matter at all as long as you do not stop trying. Setting a deadline to achieve something is a just pressure we put on ourselves to get it done. If we get things we want at the time we set, we will can give ourselves some more time to do it. Spending a bit more time is much a better decision than the feeling of failure and stop trying.
3. Focus on Good Things You Have
Some of the bad past happens when you compare yourself with others. Often time, people ask themselves why they have not achieved or done great things like other people. Because of this, your self-image drops, and you somehow feel you are useless. That is actually a temporary mood at all that could destroy your day, week, or month. However, if you instead look at the good things you have done and achieved, you may appreciate yourselves more and keep trying to reach your new goal.
4 .Learn from the Past, Live the Present, Expect the Future
Letting go of one bad past is a skill, but training yourself to live away for the past is lifestyle. You have to own the principle of a happy life. This is one “Learn from the Past, Live the Present, and Expect the Future.” Tell yourself from now on that you will take every past mistake or disappointment as the lessons learnt, and enjoy improving your present by them while expecting and driving yourself to your future expectation.
5. Learning to Love Yourself
From day to day, you need to convince yourself that you are important, and you are born to do great things for your family and many other people around you. By feeling so, you will start to being so. This is a guiding spirit that will help you fight with any problems that happen to you either it a bad drama in your life, the barriers in your present, or the worry in the future. There is only one thing that will, at any time, play in your mind. It is ” I have to fight with any single problems I am facing, and be who I think I am.”